Life intimidates art, art intimidates life

What does one do about requests for blog addresses from people in RL? Mermaidgrrl had this happen, someone who she’d written about requested the address and she politely ignored the request, hoping they’d get the hint and not ask again. After all, as she said, it’s like a diary, and you shouldn’t have to go back and edit it just so someone can come and browse. I kind of agree. Someone recently asked for mine, and I have a dim memory of having posted a not so veiled references to the person. Now these were posted ages ago, and full of enthusiasm, but really, it is a little bit high school to find out how someone feels about you by reading about yourself isn’t it? It’s like intercepting some fragment of a note passed around the classroom and trying to figure out whether it’s really about you, and not knowing who it was being passed to, who else has read it. Even if you’re secretly chuffed at what was said, you must think it’s strange to have been discussed in a public forum without being invited. The other option is to go back and edit, delete posts, but I am kind of wedded to the strange selective honesty I enjoy in this forum and think it’s artificial to go back and erase some of that story. If I did, would I then only write very bland and safe things in future just in case someone reads it? Not share some key aspect just because there could be someone who might want to read it that might then know something a bit revealing? It kind of seems to undermine the whole process of gradually feeling safe throwing open more and more doors, revealing the interior and letting the breeze come through. So no. No retrospective editing. But still too chicken to give the address to some people…